This picture came across my newsfeed yesterday. I’m sure it’s not new to many of you, but it was new to me. I saw it, read it, and paused. And then I said, “Yes. That’s what I’ve done – that’s all…
Tag Archives: relationships
What Matters Most in Life (When a Fire Alarm and a Typo Became a Messenger)
How do we identify what’s truly important in life? (And why does it matter?) There are always the quick answers, such as: happiness, family, and health, but these are somewhat theoretically cliché and intangible, however true. It’s getting to the…
Bridging the Gap
Relationships can be tricky. Whether it’s a work relationship, a romantic relationship, a friendship, or family, they can all be fraught with ups and downs. At their best they are sustenance for our souls, bringing joy, love, and possibility into…
The Importance of Discernment and Taking Pause
This week I want to share an experience with you that I had just a few days ago, and why it reminded me of the importance of discernment and taking pause – especially online. It’s actually a bit long, so…
Choose Yourself, Too.
Several years ago, post-divorce, I was in a relationship with someone that was just what I needed. He was a very thoughtful man, who seemed fairly focused on me feeling empowered and independent after years of codependency and identity-loss. At…
Detaching or Disengaging?
There is “detach with love” and then there is “disengage with compassion.” You haven’t heard of the second one? That’s because I’ve only recently developed it. Here’s why: During my years in Al-Anon, where I first heard the phrase, I…
The Two C’s That Make the Holidays Stressful
One of the reasons we have so many arguments and disagreements with family during the holidays is because we engage in the practice of Competing and Comparing. Here’s what I’m talking about… There’s a difference between saying, “I make my…