Over the years (more often than not), I have heard story after story about how stressful family gatherings are around the holidays. In fact, there is an entire product-based industry capitalizing off this stereotype. (One of my favorites is a…
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We Teach Expectations
One of the simplest truths came up again today when talking with a client: We teach people what to expect of us. If you’re always willing to give, you teach people to expect that you will always give. And then…
Labels, Limits, and Love – part 2
Last week I told you about my experience saying “I love you” to someone who isn’t categorized as lover, family or friend. I likened Love to a pasta sauce (yes, I did!), and shared that we would explore the idea…
Labels, Limits, and Love – part 1
I don’t define love. Defining puts limitations on it. I love. Pure and simple. I recently had this experience: I said “I love you” to someone who was neither lover, nor family, nor friend. (Well, ok, maybe friend, kinda sorta,…
Expectations are Hope in Disguise
I recently had an opportunity to experience suffering. The kind where you sometimes sit on your shower floor and cry, hoping the constant stream of water from above will somehow dilute the salty rivers on your face (and where nobody…
To live life as a dog.
For dogs there is no yesterday and there is no tomorrow. There is only now, and there is only love. Love of food. Love of sleep. Love of play. Love of walks. Love of their owner. And seemingly, all…
Champions at Heart
“You don’t need a man, Liz. You need a champion.” – Eat, Pray, Love I always liked that line, because it hits me. Right there. You know the place: That space between your heart and your throat where you can…