Volume II / Issue 17 — 17 August 2021
If you google “perfectionism quotes,” 860k results are returned in less than 1 second. It seems a lot of folks have a lot to say about what it means to be perfect. As I read through the first 30-40 quotes offered to me, one stood out: “Perfectionism is a dream killer…” by Mastin Kipp, a bestselling author, speaker, and trauma expert. Mastin goes on to say that perfectionism is “fear disguised as trying to do your best.” Those are some pretty hard-hitting words.
Now, let’s look at what celebrated football coach Vince Lombardi has to say: “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection, we can catch excellence.” It sort of reminds me of, “Shoot for the moon, if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” Both are nice sentiments, but neither are realistic.
And that’s the problem with “perfectionism”—it can be used as both a motivator (a la Lombardi) or a dream killer (a la Kipp). So, which is it? Well, I’m thrilled to share that Dutch author Marjon Bohré-den Harder has explored the actual research behind perfectionism, and shares her findings in the upcoming English version of her book, The Perfection Paradox, due out next year.
Marjon and I met over a decade ago when we both studied with Dr. Brené Brown in her first training classes for her work with shame and vulnerability. Since then, Marjon and I have become friends, and I have become a fan of her studied and deliberate approach to helping organizations and people become the best that they can be. Luckily, now you will also have an opportunity to learn from Marjon and finally understand the problem with Perfection.
All my best,
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“Perfectionism is a dream killer, because it’s just fear disguised as trying to do your best.”
– Martin Kipp-
Marjon Bohré-den Harder is a seasoned executive (team) coach, with over 25 years of experience as a manager (interim), trainer, coach, and consultant. She founded her private practice in 2008 and works with leaders and their teams on humanizing organizations. She is a registered facilitator in the work of Professor Brené Brown, PhD.
As a PhD-candidate, Marjon is researching the role of leadership in humanness within organizations. Her most recent book De Perfectie Paradox (Dutch) is currently being translated to English to be published in 2022 by IOM. Marjon lives in Rijswijk, the Netherlands with her husband and their two daughters.
Upcoming Fall Releases
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Starting in September, we have numerous offerings across multiple genres, including:
- Get Out of the Red Zone: Transform Your Stress and Optimize True Success™
by Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD
- The Seasonal Table: Autumn
by Joanna Quargnali-Linsley
- Sinking and Resurfacing: Poetic Reflections on Being Human
by Taylor Wray
- Where Did All the Rhinos Go?
written by Lara Jackson and illustrated by Kelly Ulrich
- Awakening to Higher Frequencies: A Guidebook
by Awakening Healing Axis
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by Charlotte Rushton DiNunzio
- Receiving From Your Angels: Four Practices to Heal Your Pain with Angel Love
by Jill Kempner
- Princess Wigglebottom and the Forgotten Christmas
written by Tia Martina and illustrated by Patrick Laurent
- Walking with Bentley
written and illustrated by Kelly Ulrich
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