The Language of Love – it’s *not* all Greek to me!

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It’s my birthday! I’m so excited about this post I can barely contain myself! Today is all about gift-giving…from me to you! This is something I think you’ll truly love and use again and again once you see how much it can change your relationships for the better. So – happy birthday to me, and this is for you!

Love has a language! Did you know?? No, really. It does. And another thing: it has different dialects, and we all speak our own!

I imagine right about now you’re thinking: Martina is off her rocker! But I’m not. Truly. Hear me out. There is something called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and it can change your life. Basically it boils down to this:

We each have a specific way we like to show our love, and
we each have a specific way in which we prefer to receive love.

Basically, how we “speak” and how we “hear” love falls into one of 5 major categories:

  • Words of affirmation
  • Acts of service
  • Receiving gifts
  • Quality time
  • Physical touch

Problems arise when we’re giving/receiving love in ways that aren’t understood. I can give you an example, but I think my friend, Carla Birnberg, did it so beautifully I’d rather share hers with you. Carla recently wrote about speaking (giving) love in a language her daugher could hear (receive). There’s no tranlsation necessary when we learn how to communicate our love effectively with someone else. To read what Carla did, click here (you’re going to LOVE this, and her!)

You can see why I’m so excited to share this with you! I’ve known about the love languages for years. We even taught our group of high school kids last year the basic premise of the love languages in order to help them better communicate with their families. This is one of those things you stumble upon and can instantly use to change your relationships for the better.

I encourage you to take a look at the website The 5 Love Languages, and see for yourself. Take the quiz, understand your own language and then share that information with your loved ones, and ask them to share with you. I think you’ll be glad you did. 🙂






  • carla
    February 11th, 2014 · Reply

    thank you for the link LOOOOOVE.

  • Gil
    May 6th, 2014 · Reply

    That’s a genuinely imsvpesire answer.

    • Martina
      May 6th, 2014 · Reply

      Thank you. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

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